Do you want an Epidural?

Having a baby is so exciting but can also be so scary.  I was SO nervous about the birth of my first child. When would I go into labor?  Will a tidal wave of fluid explode from me while at work? How painful will it be? Will I be in labor for days?  How painful will it be? Will I be able to do this? What if something goes wrong? How painful will it be?

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You may see now that I was a little nervous about the pain part. The one thing I did know was that I wanted an epidural. I was hoping to make the process less painful and more enjoyable.  Many of my mom friends had raved about their epidural experience. I had a couple friends who got to the hospital too late for an epidural and said that they wished they could have had one. So I had made up my mind to get one, as long as it was possible and safe to do so.

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Best Case Scenario

The birth of my first child went wonderful! My water broke while I was on the toilet! Talk about best case scenario there! I got to shower before I went into the hospital and got there before having any real contractions.

During labor, yes there was pain but when the pain was becoming unbearable I got the epidural and amazing relief along with it. Everything went quickly and smoothly for my first born and I was so happy and relieved to have my beautiful baby girl.

For me, the best part of having an epidural was that I was not in pain immediately after she was born and could enjoy every second with my new baby.  Besides the fact that my first baby was almost 4 weeks early things went as smoothly as possible.

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When things don’t go as planned

Then came baby two.  I wasn’t nearly as worried as I was with my first.  My biggest concern was just to get to the hospital in time for that glorious epidural.  And I did.  I got the epidural….and it didn’t work.  Yup that’s right, sometimes they just don’t work.  Whether it wasn’t in the right place or positioned correctly or whatever reason, all I knew was that it did not work. I have to admit I did not think of that as a possibility.  I just assumed that as long as I got the epidural I would be home free just like with my first. Well, I was wrong.

Yes they can fix it.  The nurse called the anesthesiologist back to re-do the epidural. But anesthesiologists are busy and things take time in a hospital. My baby was not waiting so “natural” child birth it was.  I felt every last bit of it.  Now thankfully my labor was pretty quick but I was in no way prepared to do it au natural.  I had been so focused on getting that epidural that I didn’t really plan for anything else.

The worst part was that I was still in so much pain immediately after I gave birth.  Getting the baby out is the hard part but then there is still the placenta, the uterine massages and…oh yeah the stitches!  Now I was lucky enough to not need that many but believe me it was not fun.  Trying to hold and enjoy my baby girl with all that pain going on down there was not exactly comfortable. 

Be Prepared

Looking back, I wish I had some sort of plan to give birth without the epidural so I would have some sort of clue.  I had never taken a birthing class because my first was 4 weeks early (just before my class was scheduled). After having one baby already I didn’t feel like I needed a birthing class. Now I kinda wish I had taken one. Anything to make me more aware of the many options and possible scenarios.

These are some of the highly rated online courses that I have found. I like the idea of an online course because you can do it on your own time. If you want to be more prepared than I was you should check these out and give one a try!

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So much of giving birth is out of your control. The baby will decide when he/she wants to come, there may be complications, you may need a C-section, it may be quick or drawn out for hours or even days. While I think you should have some sort of plan going into childbirth I would highly recommend being fully prepared for things to not go your way!

Giving birth is kinda like a box of chocolates…you never know what you’re gonna get! (If you haven’t seen Forest Gump you should go get some chocolates for you and your baby bump and watch it 😊)

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